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How to Roleplay with Your Partner

how to roleplay for your woman2 How to Roleplay with Your Partner

Role-playing: an exotic world of sexual make-believe. It’s a fantasy land where all your dreams come true!

Or at least, that’s the idea.

But let’s face it, venturing into role-playing can actually be an anxiety inducing, relationship ending experience.

Lucky for you, we’ve assembled this guide so you can have the kind of education required for that student/teacher fantasy, or whatever your heart, and loins, desire.

Make a Love List

Here’s a chance for you and your partner to create a master list of every single perverted sexual fantasy that has ever crept into your minds.

Start by asking yourself questions, from ‘what do I like?’, to ‘what am I willing to do?’, and ‘do I think my partner would like this?’. Are you a closet sadist? Born again prisoner?

The main goal is to be honest, sincere and non-judgmental in writing your list and in reading that of your partners, because when the two, or even three of you (we’ll get into the math some other time…) exchange fantasies, ‘you disgust me!’ is the last thing you want to hear.

Sex is supposed to be comfortable, fun, and pleasurable for all parties involved.

Here’s a chance for you and your partner to create a master list of every single perverted sexual fantasy that has ever crept into your minds.

Dress up

One of the simplest ways to inject a little authenticity to your role-playing is to introduce some costume elements.

It’s one thing to brainstorm and set the blue print of your fantasy, but creating an imaginary world with costumes gives role-playing its magic. So get out there, have fun, get creative!

Dig through your closet, thrift stores (always wash these items before wearing), and old Halloween costumes, because once you decide to graduate to the higher-end items of your local sex shops, you’re credit card bill will never be the same.

Here are a few well known role-playing themes you may want to consider:

  • Age Play: A situation where one takes a younger innocent role and is taken into a sexual realm by an elder. Try Teacher/Student role, Girlscout/Neighbor, or Boss/Intern.
  • Master/Slave Play: And cue in the dominatrix outfit. Here’s a situation where one is chained, blindfolded, and gagged by an authoritative figure leaving her/him to dish out whatever ‘punishment’ is deserved. The key here is a safe word, because one of you is going to be limited in their ability to stop the proceedings!
  • Hospital Play: Hey, sometimes our sexual fantasies enter our minds in the most inappropriate times. A doctor giving a patient sexual ‘medicine’ on their death-bed perhaps?
  • Uniform Fetish: Uniforms are synonymous with authority, and sexual attraction. Anything along the lines of policemen, firefighter, or pilot ought to do the trick.
  • Stranger fantasy: Believe it or not, individuals sexually fantasize about having sex with random strangers, and it’s more common than you think. This kind of scenario could take numerous forms, but most commonly you simply pretend to be other people. Talk this over with your partner and see if there are specific scenarios to pursue/avoid.

Communication is Key

Talk about it after! Like with every relationship, communication is key.

Before, during, and after, make sure you know how far is too far. What felt good, and what didn’t?

Consider role-playing as an excuse to go out and have fun together, from shopping for costumes, sexy foods, video cameras to getting creative with scripts and climaxing.

The communication alone will bring both of you closer together for a stronger and spicier relationship.

Consider role-playing as an excuse to go out and have fun together, from shopping for costumes, sexy foods, video cameras to getting creative with scripts and climaxing.

Summary

Role-playing is supposed to be fun, comfortable, and sexy for both parties. Like every aspect of a loving relationship, honesty, trust, and compromise will win the day.

And remember, we’re not here to win an Academy Award, it’s very important to tell your partner how much you really feel about everything she or he does for you.

From there, you’d be amazed on how far lovers will go to please each other.

  • Brainstorm and know what you want!
  • Pick a scene, create an enjoyable experience together!
  • Communication before, during, and after is very important. Know the boundaries! Tell each other how turned on you are in the moment!
  • Be safe!

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Sepher Cadiz
Sepher Cadiz, a creative writer with a BA in Communications, likes to think of himself as an iconoclast. He also likes to use the word, 'iconoclast' as much as possible. Sepher the iconoclast currently resides in Toronto, ON, and beyond writing here, is in search for other 'Iconoclasts' who have similar dreams of using the term extensively, and often inappropriately.
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